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I remember a story once told to me by a cousin of my grandfather’s about her visit to Vidal Sassoon’s London salon and the pixie cut that she left with. When she arrived back at the hotel, her husband said he hoped she’d never wear her hair any other way. Some fifty years later, it remains the same.

Over the course of the last 50 years, countless hair styles have become classics. Generally, we’ve referred to them by the people who wore them, not the artists who created them. Jacqueline Kennedy, Farrah Fawcett, Jennifer Aniston: People asked for their hair. And yet we all know Vidal Sassoon’s styles — even when done for Mia Farrow or Peggy Moffatt — as Vidal Sassoon’s. For that reason alone, he stood out from the rest.

Vidal Sassoon passed away in Los Angeles on Wednesday from leukemia. He was 84.

Today, I’m not taking for granted the fact that my hair can be done so simply and make me feel good as long as it’s cut well. A great cut defines the jawline, the cheekbones and neck. For these ideas, and the very concept of “wash and wear,” I thank Mr. Sassoon.

I’ve always been fascinated by the way history and art, design and fashion all intertwine. The way ideas ripple in so many directions. As it did for Sassoon.

He loved modern architecture and clean lines, and as the Mod Movement hit London in the late fifties, he found his ideas worked beautifully with the times. Or maybe, the times with his work.

Sassoon’s career as a stylist wasn’t something he himself had planned, but if not for the circumstances of his life, perhaps he wouldn’t have set out to break the mold and make such a statement.

He grew up in London tenements, and when his parents divorced, he and his brother spent seven years living in a Jewish orphanage as his mother was unable to support them. She was allowed to visit them monthly but they could never leave with her. All this amidst the growing anti-semitism and rumblings of world war.

He dreamed of going to college, but at 14 he had to leave school for work. He soon began an apprenticeship with a hair dresser, as his mother had had a premonition that this was to be his calling. Sassoon listened to his mother. Wisely.

Self-educated, he took elocution lessons to lose his Cockney accent and became politically active. At seventeen, he became the youngest member of the English anti-fascist movement, 43 Group, and in 1948, joined the Israeli army to fight in the Arab-Israeli War. He considered it one of the most important years of his life. (In 1982, The Vidal Sassoon International Center for the Study of Antisemitism was founded at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem as an international research program.)

Sassoon returned to London from Israel on the cusp of a new decade, just as beehives and bouffants were to become all the rage. He had other ideas. He was thinking outside the box that teased and set and shellaced hair so that it would stay for a week or so, until the next salon appointment.

As he said in the 2010 documentary Vidal Sassoon: The Movie, “If I was going to be in hairdressing, I wanted to change things. I wanted to eliminate the superfluous and get down to the basic angles of cut and shape.”

And for the next decade, he would work to perfect that. In 1963, he gave Mary Quant a haircut that would become as famous as the miniskirt she created. In a beautiful tribute in the UK’s Daily Mail, Quant wrote “Along with the Pill and the mini-skirt, his influence was truly liberating.”

Without Vidal Sassoon we’d never have known the idea of hair that could be done without being “done.” That hair cuts were styles in and of themselves and didn’t require teasing and curling and weekly trips to the salon in order to be au courant. He had the notion that hair should be cut to flatter bone structure. Liberating? Yes. Flattering? That too.

Two of the most wonderful stylists I know, my friend’s parents John And Suzanne Chadwick, knew Sassoon as both a colleague and friend. They began their careers in London before moving to New York and then Los Angeles, not unlike Sassoon.

They told me “Vidal was a kind, helpful and superb individual who led millions of hairdressers to strive on to follow his impeccable standards of work and pure ethics. Much has and will be written about this incredible man. He was extraordinary in more ways that we could ever convey, other than to say he made us proud to call ourselves hairdressers.”

They described him as a “remarkable philanthropic man who made this planet a better place to walk upon…who built homes after Katrina with his own hands and mobilized our profession to become involved.”

(Sassoon co-founded Hair Unlocking Hope, which raised funds to help build homes after the devastation of Hurricane Katrina. Having grown up without a home much of his life, this cause was close to his heart.)

We live in a time where celebrity and fame are so often lauded without talent to support it. We must be careful not to overuse words like icon for they’ll begin to lose their luster.

But for Mr. Sassoon I can think of no other. He was an artist, a businessman, a humanitarian, a father, brother, husband and son. And a friend.

As I received in an email from John and Suzanne:

Thank you Vidal for being a lifetime friend, laughing at our bad jokes, always twinkling with excitement, making us so welcome in your home and counseling us so wisely…everyone should have a champion like you. Rest now, as your reputation and uniqueness radiates around the planet. We shall miss you.

Rest in peace, Mr Sassoon.

red balloon alexandra wrote autism speaks cancer

I don’t believe there is a reason for everything. There are events, things that can’t be made sense of, that simply defy reason. I don’t believe in reasons for some things.

But signs. I believe in signs. Good ones. Like hummingbirds. And Friday the 13ths. And red balloons. I believe in red balloons. Like this one I saw float away from the Rose Bowl on Saturday, at the Autism Speaks 5K.

You could say that it was a red balloon that brought me to the blogosphere.

I’ve told the story more than once, but here’s the Reader’s Digest Condensed (ish) Version:

Summer 2010: I read online about a call for artists. An art auction to benefit the Gulf Spill cleanup. A blogger’s words to inspire an artists’s work. I was a magazine editor, a writer and photographer.

I email: are non-blogger artists welcome?

This is how I met BlogHer.

I’m sent a few sentences by someone I do not know. Powerful words. I style an inspiration board, a photo collage-style I do often, using the words of the unknown blogger, tacked alongside things I believe in: cookie fortunes, quotes typed on 3×5 cards, tutus, Kodachrome slides, ballet flats, sequins. A photo of a red balloon.

I tack things to the board, rearrange them once, twice, place the red balloon in a corner. The red balloon about life. About a life. About loss. About cancer.

Note to Self, by alexandrawrote (featuring words by Edenland)

I send the photo file off. I go to see the blog from which the words came. I see familiar words I don’t want anyone to recognize: B-Cell Follicular Aggressive Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma.

This was how I met my friend Eden.

The cancer Eden’s husband survived took the life of my beautiful cousin about 8 months prior. I’d carried that balloon in memory of her in the LLS Light the Night Walk. What had meant something only to me in that collage took on a whole new meaning. Our collaborative art project took on a new meaning (and wouldn’t be the last one).

I don’t believe cancer happens for a reason. But I believe in red balloons. I believe in their ability to defy gravity. I believe in their ability to fly.

Sunday, while editing photos from the walk, I saw the photo I had snapped of the red balloon leaving Los Angeles for some unknown destination.

Then had an email from Look Good Feel Better, and, well, you know…signs.

The Look Good Feel Better campaign has a simple, powerful, beautiful mission: to help women living with cancer feel beautiful. I love that. When they asked if I might post this video, I was all over it.

I love that while we fight to find treatment and cures for cancers like B-Cell Follicular Aggressive Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, we can also help women feel a bit more like themselves in the midst of treatments that often steal from them the familiar face they used to see. The ‘them’ they used to know. The energy they used to know. The ease with which they took some things for granted, like my cousins did in scooping up her babies in her arms.

My cousin was still the same talented, fabulous woman when her long, dark tresses were replaced with beautiful headscarves. She looked chic with her Jean Seburg hair. But these choices weren’t ones she made. They were made for her. By cancer.

From LA to NY, I didn’t get to spend as much time my cousin, her magically musical husband and their beautiful babies as much as I wanted to. We emailed a lot. We sent snail mail. The last thing I ever sent were a pair of ballet flats, a Liberty-esque print. I have a thing for ballet flats as anyone who knows me is well aware. Why send flowers when you can send shoes? Floral ones.

I remember a note that said something about stopping to smell the flowers, or tiptoeing through them or something light and silly because sometimes we needed to be light and silly. The shoes were pretty. Cancer is not. So, I sent a little bit of pretty.

She told me she loved them, though I don’t know how much she got to wear them. When I bought them I imagined seeing her wearing them in person the next year. But the next year didn’t come.

The following autumn at the Light the Night Walk I carried two balloons - one in her memory, the other in honor of Eden’s husband. I wish I’d worn floral shoes.

Please watch this video from the Look Good Feel Better campaign, and learn more about the cause by visiting them online, on Facebook and twitter.

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