Archive for August, 2011

August 22, 2011

Looking for that Monday Funday: Ac-Cent-Tchu-Ate the Positive

You’ve got to accentuate the positive. Eliminate the negative.

Latch on to the affirmative. Don’t mess with Mister In-Between. - Arlen & Mercer

An incredible friend of mine once made me a compilation he calls M+A’s Finite Playlist – including this song. It’s a playlist I shuffle quite often. And every time I hear this song, I think of him.

Life is ridiculously unpredictable sometimes. Bring joy up to the maximum. Wherever you can. Whenever you can. Even on Mondays, fundays or not so much.

I used to think, OK, Monday. Start with the hard stuff. Get that done first. Only there are times when it’s all seemingly hard stuff, and then what do you do? Accentuate the positive, find your groove and let things fall into place.

Often that groove is called Tuesday, so be patient.

And sometimes you just need a little Sam Cooke to get you going – no messing with Mister In-Between. xo a.

August 17, 2011

five great things someone else said, vol 20

There’s this fabulous blog called ADVANCED STYLE where women beyond the age of your average Vogue reader share their take on fashion, style and life. It’s like the Sartorialist with the requirement of an AARP card. These women who were reading fashion magazines in the days of Carmel Snow and Diana Vreeland and Fleur Cowles. From classic to eccentric to eclectic – these women are inspiring at seventy, eighty, even ninety-nine.

I love fashion. Always have. It went from simply the fun of shopping and dress up to an appreciation of fashion history when at about thirteen, my love of the Met’s Temple of Dendur was usurped by a trip downstairs to an exhibit at the Costume Institute.

I love the history and the art of fashion and, always the writer, the Proustian stories that a certain little black dress, a d’Orsay pump, a Cartier LOVE bracelet can evoke.

And I am loving the wisdom of these women at the AS site.

Some of my greatest fashion influences were grandmothers (I had several more than two), great-grandmothers and great aunts - women whose personal style was decades apart from the trends of my day. Women who took me to tea and fashion shows at the long gone Bullocks Wilshire. Women who offered all sorts of fashion wisdom, some that only years later I would truly appreciate.

While I always loved playing dress up in my mother’s closet, and in no doubt am greatly influenced by her, their closets and dressing rooms were a bit more, well, fun. The hat boxes, the cocktail jewelry, the vintage fur capelets with the monogrammed silk linings – and everything from Dior to local dressmaker was so. well. made.

As my father once put it, “They know from cool.” And they shared the cool, too.

The grandmother who brought 8-year-old me a black velvet Yves Saint Laurent dress from Paris with its sequined sleeves and royal blue silk sash. Or the black cashmere Lacroix swing coat another gave me when I was going off to college. Or the sets of Bakelite bangles. Or the delicately beaded purse inscribed with the name of the first owner and dated one hundred years ago. They shared all sorts of cool with me.

But they also helped to me realize that style is not synonymous with fashion – it does not come from any store, any look book, or by following any set of rules. It also isn’t about how much money you spend or don’t spend. Style is something cultivated and discovered over time.

Something that the women of ADVANCED STYLE have much to teach. xo a.

And now, five great things someone else said about personal style:

When I arrived in America, I had these very dark red nails which some people objected to, but then some people object to absolutely everything. – Diana Vreeland, DV

Fashions fade, style is eternal. – Yves Saint Laurent

Chic is where you find it. – Bonnie Cashin

Elegance is good taste plus a dash of daring. – Carmel Snow

Oh, never mind the fashion. When one has style of one’s own, it is always twenty times better. – Margaret Oliphant

August 15, 2011

working on that funday monday thing

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. - Chinese Proverb

I am currently hitting my head against my desk over tech difficulties that should be resolved tonight. But it means I am stepping away from the computer for a bit, which might be some sort of divine intervention. Que sera. xo a.

P.S. The above bracelet was a gift from my friend Morgan. Check out the Getty Owl Foundation at www.gettyowl.org - and this GORGEOUS benefit album for Getty, and all babies with SMA, at iTunes, here.

August 10, 2011

five great things someone else said, vol 19

Photographing the BlogHer conference meant five days of peeking my head in and out of the workshops, the parties, the breakfasts and lunches each day. In those snippets I realized how much I want to attend next year and absorb it all from a writer’s POV.

The blogosphere is complex and hard to define. The term “blog” itself covers such a wide range of genres, but unlike film or books or music, the general public has yet to fully grasp that. At BlogHer the range of talents were on display, and no place more so than at the Voice of the Year keynote, where fourteen truly extraordinary bloggers read essays that blew me away. Seriously, there was a reason there was Kleenex at every seat. One of the speakers was my friend Eden, and I am proud to have been a part of the events that took place in the post she read.

Here is a link to the posts of the fourteen keynote presenters.

They were all original and strong voices – but there are so many of them out there! So many more than those fourteen. I find this really exciting.

There is an incredible playing field that is being leveled by the blogosphere. Suddenly, there are voices being heard that a decade ago would not have had a platform. A blog offers people a place to share their words with the world. To find an audience, and maybe even find work. Writing work. Paid work.

The Lost Generation headed for Paris. Perhaps the next literary circle is headed online. Maybe it’s already there.

A writing life can be hard. It’s inconsistent and unpredictable, but I couldn’t live without it. And to all those who share in it, five great things someone else said about the writing life:

Read, read, read. Read everything — trash, classics, good and bad, and see how they do it. Just like a carpenter who works as an apprentice and studies the master. Read! You’ll absorb it. Then write. If it’s good, you’ll find out. If it’s not, throw it out of the window. - William Faulkner

There’s no such thing as perfect writing, just like there’s no such thing as perfect despair. - Haruki Murakami

How do I know what I think until I see what I say? - E.M. Forster

Deliver me from writers who say the way they live doesn’t matter. I’m not sure a bad person can write a good book. If art doesn’t make us better, then what on earth is it for. - Alice Walker

Don’t say it was delightful; make us say delightful when we’ve read the description. You see, all those words (horrifying, wonderful, hideous, exquisite) are only like saying to your readers Please will you do the job for me. - C.S. Lewis

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