Posts tagged ‘only connect’

June 28, 2011

giving credit where credit is due

For fifteen years, I have worked as a writer, and later, a photographer and an editor as well. I love editing, be it book or magazine or for an individual client. Not just the research and working with writers and the robin’s egg blue cover of the latest CMOS, but because I know what it’s like to be on the other side. I’ve had editors of my own. I still do. And when I’m editing, I want to make sure that the work of others is the best it can be.

While I’ve been guest posting on various blogs for four years now, this site still has a bit of that new blog smell. I have netiquette conundrums all the time. (What my great grandmother Fifi, my personal Emily Post, would have made of this, I wonder?)

With a blog of my own, I’ve thought more about the way words and photos roam. How often I hear about people seeing their own work plagiarized. With a writing career mostly in print, I never really worried too much about that. (Photos more so.) Unfortunately, the ease of a cut and paste is too hard for some to resist. Fortunately, many cutter and pasters find karma is alive and well online.

Just yesterday I was talking to my friend Janna about public Flickr accounts and how much trust you had to have in others when you posted things. Because when you post photos online, they can end up anywhere. Like glitter. Or a Czech grocery store advertisement.

Whether here or on other sites, I have always been quite particular about images, taking my own photos (or scribbling a few words) most all of the time. I never quite understand how people deal with images otherwise. I’m baffled by the issue of credit. And what is OK to post, and what isn’t. So, I err on the side of caution and generally do my own thing.

Check out this fabulous poster about photo creditiquette that was created by Erin Loechner and Pia Jane Bijkerk, with a font by Yvette van Boven. Great typography AND in pink! (It comes in three other colors, too. You can purchase a print here.)

And please pay a visit to LINK WITH LOVE - you’ll find that there is a whole wide web of people who create and respect the creativity of others and want to see their names, URLs, twitter handles, placed beside their words and images.

While I’m learning that not everything requires permission - I no longer will email/tweet and ask people permission to link to them - the editor in me will always want to source and fact check because it’s the right thing to do. And it’s the nice thing to do.

And while it’s nice to be important, it’s most important to be nice. xo a.

June 15, 2011

five great things someone else said, vol 13

In the last week, I joined in celebrating the 90th birthday of a man who has lived a truly remarkable life. I also learned, via twitter , of Alice Pyne, a fifteen year old girl in England with terminal cancer who created a blog to post her bucket list, which included trending on twitter.

And so, at times throughout the week, my thoughts have traveled back and forth between what it might be like to live ninety years and what it would have been like to have only lived for fifteen.

I thought of the bucket list that Alice has created. All the things she wants to do and has posted to her website. And I thought about the 90th birthday party I’d attended and the discussions amongst people, of all ages - what they’d done, what they were up to and what they were planning to do next. Weren’t we, in fact, creating lists of our own right there at that beachside restaurant – talking about movies we’d love to make, art grants we’re hoping to receive, the best and worst times of year to visit Cairo/Paris/Istanbul? (#firstworldproblems, I know.)

Shouldn’t we all be making bucket lists but calling them life goals instead? OK, maybe not life goals because that totally sounds like high school counselor-speak, but you know what I’m getting at. (Just saw a website that calls them life goals. Must find a better name. Oh, who cares what you call it, as long as you do it.)

Why must it take some earth-shattering, senseless news to make us stop and smell the roses, start saving for that trip, writing that book, planning that Thanksgiving when we’ll skip the feast and go volunteer at the L.A. Mission. It isn’t all trips down the Nile and training for the New York Marathon. There are so many small things that somehow slip between the cracks, too. We need buckets to scoop them up as well.

Oh, how I hope that Alice is able to do all she wishes for on that list, and more. I hope that she knows that her very first to-do on the that bucket list, To make everyone sign up to be a bone marrow donor, is already bringing hope and joy to so many. Around the world. Bringing some sense to a senseless reality faced by so many. That she placed it tip-top, above all else, well, it just goes to show that Alice is wise beyond her fifteen years. Perhaps wise beyond ninety.

Smell those roses, everyone. Inhale deeply. Today. Everyday. xo a.

And now, five great things someone else said about living life to its fullest:

When you write down your life, every page should contain something no one has ever heard about. - Elias Canetti

The remarkable thing is that it is the crowded life that is most easily remembered. A life full of turns, achievements, disappointments, surprises, and crises is a life full of landmarks. The empty life has even its few details blurred, and cannot be remembered with certainty. -Eric Hoffer

He who breathes deepest lives most. – Elizabeth Barrett Browning

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. - Mae West

You were born with wings, why prefer to crawl through life? - Rumi

June 3, 2011

stripe mania

Chic is where you find it. – Bonnie Cashin

Luxury must be comfortable, otherwise it is not luxury. – Coco Chanel

In recent years, two of my lifelong fashion staples have become increasingly popular: ballet flats and striped tees.

Some people get annoyed when their signature pieces become trendy. I actually think it just makes for more fun stuff to buy. (Silver linings, right?) So, from top to toes, the things I love to wear can be found just about anywhere these days - from Target to Barneys. (I find J. Crew satisfies both addictions very nicely.)

When I was a little girl, long before Repetto came stateside, I’d go to Capezio and get one pair of ballet shoes for ballet class, and another that went to the shoe repair and had rubber soles put on the bottoms to wear outside. I think the only thing that would have made me happier was if I could have worn my tap shoes outside, too.

As for the stripes, well, I suppose it must be genetic as my mother loves them, too. One of my favorite photos of her is on my parents’ wedding day as she’s having her makeup done. It’s actually a series of shots, in black and white lit by LA sunshine breaking through the curtains. There’s nothing posed, and she seems unaware of the camera for the most part. And along with her Dorothy Hamill hair cut, she’s wearing a navy and white striped bateau neck top. (Ironically, so is the makeup artist with her supercool Mary Quant makeup caddy.)

I’ve worn a lot of stripes in my time. Tops, tights, skirts – my favorite probably being a navy and white striped Christian Dior sweater dress I had when I was eight.

So, when Jules first mentioned that decor8 was doing a round-up of bloggers in their stripes for Pinterest, I decided to join in. I mean, I was wearing stripes then. I am wearing them as I type this. I didn’t have to do much.

Since Tru happens to have one item of clothing and it is striped, I wrangled him for a quick photo op. (Don’t judge. I will have children one day, and he’ll be lucky if I remember his name, let alone humiliate him with striped sweaters. It’s not like I bought him ballet slippers.)

In honor of #stripemania, “Only connect…” Breton-style. xo a.

(To join in the decor8 stripe mania photo project, go here for details.)

May 25, 2011

five great things someone else said, vol 10

As a writer, I started to blog thinking it was merely an extension of what I already do. But I was wrong. Because normally it’s me behind a byline or masthead or script cover page or a camera lens. But now it’s just me. Not behind anything.

And the Internet is quite a gigantic soapbox to call one’s own.

I’ve guest posted for years, but I’m still very new at being a blogger in my own right. And I sometimes wonder if the way I do things is kind of like that scene in Mr. Mom where Michael Keaton attempts the school drop-off run for the first time.

Beyond the writing is the reading. How do you do it? Subscriptions? Readers? Apps?

I generally just type in an address or click a link, leaving the tabs up until I have a chance to read the posts throughout the day. If I’m on the laptop, security settings lead to a lockdown every few minutes if I step away (If someone is to ever steal it, I’m going to make it difficult for them to use it). So each time I log back in, the browser reloads with tabs from last time, which I now realize could probably make for wacky site stats. Internet, I am sorry. I had no idea.

And then there are comments. I don’t leave enough. I tend to overthink it. I’ll write something, reread it, then wonder if it sounds lame and decide not to hit ‘publish.’ (Please tell me I am not the only one who does this.) But I need to comment more. Because there is great stuff out there.

Writers and artists and designers and dreamers and doers - great things are going on here. Things that would not be happening without the existence of social media. (Malcolm Gladwell, I only half-agree with you. Sorry.)

Fellow bloggers, I applaud you for having the courage to present the world as you see it. Many of you with a candor and style I only wish I could possess.

I’ll do my best to tell you more often in that comment box.

xo a.

In honor of the blogosphere, five great things someone else said that inspire me to post. Maybe you’ll find one or two that inspire you, too.

Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by the accidents of time, or place, or circumstances, are brought into closer connection with you. - Augustine of Hippo

If my life wasn’t funny it would just be true, and that is unacceptable. - Carrie Fisher

Good writing does not succeed or fail on the strength of its ability to persuade. It succeeds or fails on the strength of its ability to engage you, to make you think, to give you a glimpse into someone else’s head. - Malcolm Gladwell

I nod to a passing stranger, and the stranger nods back, and two human beings go off, feeling a little less anonymous. - Robert Brault

Write down the thoughts of the moment. Those that come unsought for are commonly the most valuable. - Francis Bacon

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